feeling bad for stright people

I think everyone should be queer and if someone wants to be straight they should be straight in a queer way. Heterosexuality is set up to make people so lonely. Men have this particularly bad in how heterosexuality hurts their ability to be in relationships because so much of modern straight masculinity is performing not being gay. Gayness is used as such a common insult by straight men. The difference between romantic relationships and relationships of friendships are not actually as clear cut as it is often imagined in western cultures. It leaves a lot of room for ambiguity that could be seen as gay. So many straight men in order to defend this sacredness of the heterosexual romantic relation prevent themselves from having close friendships. This seems to leave these men very dependent on having a partner to deal with their emotions. What makes me a bit less sympathetic is that this emotional burden is too much for one person to deal with and so hurts their partners , and when they don’t have a partner men will take their emotional problems out on others in very violent ways. I do think these problems are not limited to just men but they have it the worst and cause the most harm to others by it. At least from my limited viewpoint it seems like it is.

I think we need to be more open to each other and label our relationships to each other less. Labels can be useful and fine but I feel like a more open and queer way of relating to labels would be healthy for all of us.